Behavior of the victims of an of the agressors

The behavior of an aggressor and the victim

• Those who engage in bullying do it to impose its power over the other thus achieving to have under his complete dominion over months or even years.
• The child or several, often in groups, are constantly threatening and aggressive attitudesfor no reason against one or more children.
• Is or are provocative, anything is for them teased.
• His way of resolving conflicts is through aggression.
• It is not empathy, that is not put in the place of another.

Behavior of the victim

• They are usually shy and unsociable children. Faced with constant harassment, naturallyfeel anxious, tense and very scared to such an extent that in some cases can lead todevastating consequences.
• The child or adolescent is aggressive with their parents or teachers.
• They begin to make excuses and various arguments for not attending classes orparticipating in school activiadades.
• It has a low school performance.
• The victim begins to lose material goods without justification, or ask for more money to cover blackmail the perpetrator.
• In severe cases there is bruising or aggression evident in the face and body.

A list of things to do for those parents that have a stalker son

•  You should approach your child, talk with him.
• Interact more with your child's friends and see what activities he does.
• Once we have created a climate of communication and trust with your child, ask the reason for their behavior.
• If you check that your child is a bully, do not ignore the situation.
• You must never use violence to fix the problem. Violence begets violence, where is the solution? . Nor blame others for the bad behavior of your child.
• Never fail to show love to your child, but also must make it known that such conduct will not allow aggressive and threatening, also makes clear the averages are taken because of their behavior and if they continue that way.
• When it detects a case of bullying, the child's parents should work with the school to resolve a problem immediately. Talk to the teachers, ask for help and hear all the criticism that you give about your child. Keep informed about how the school is tryingthis case and the results are obtained.
• Through communication with your child you can realize your tastes and interests, conveyed his aggressive behavior on that side, if for example you like inscríbelo futbollin a club, if you like playing an instrument bring it to take classes.
• Create an environment in your home where the boy sits with the confidence to express their dissatisfactions and frustrations without attacking. Teach good manners.
• You must teach your child to recognize their mistakes and apologize to those who find they hurt, praised the good deeds.

GRAPHICS OF BULLIED PEOPLE

A list of the characteristics of relational aggression:

• "Exclusion
• Ignoring
• Spreading rumors
• Verbal insults
• Teasing
• Eye rolling
• Taunting
• Manipulative affection
• Three way calling
• Video phoning
• Cyber bullying

Which can then be further broken down to include cyber bullying and other acts of harm or cruelty.There has also been a new emergent type of bullying known as cyber bullying, though we will not go into extensive detail about this type of bullying it is the one that we as future teachers will have to pay special attention to. Bullying is no longer restricted to the school environment, and we will have to address this with our pupils.

Other acts of Relational Bullying (including cyber bullying) are:

• Send cruel and threatening e-mail messages from a computer or text messages from a cell phone
• Ridicule others by posting stories, pictures, cartoons and jokes
• Break into someone’s e-mail account and send nasty messages to others pretending to be that person
• Use the digital camera on a cell phone to take embarrassing pictures of a person then sending the picture to others
• Post pictures of a person on line and then ask others to rate that person’s appearance 

Below is a list of recommendations on how to avoid being cyber bullied. It provides students with a few suggestions such as not to post everything online, keep personal matter private, keep your cool and don't retaliate, remove any material that may put at risk of being victimized, contact the bullies parents, and finally, though abrupt -not that we agree with- is to contact an attorney (N/A,2007).

Effects of bullying on those who are targeted

The effects of bullying can be serious and even fatal. It is still a greatly unresearched area.

That year, two shotgun-wielding students, both of whom had been identified as gifted and who had been bullied for years, killed 13 people, wounded 24, and then committed suicide. A year later an analysis by officials at the U.S. Secret Service of 37 premeditated school shootings found that bullying, which some of the shooters described "in terms that approached torment," played a major role in more than two-thirds of the attacks. It is estimated that about 60-80% of children are bullied at school. Since bullying is mostly ignored, it may provide an important clue in crowd behaviour and passer-by behaviour. Many physicologist have suggested bullying as one of the reason of this decline in emotional sensitivity and acceptance of violence as normal. When someone is bullied, it is not only the bully and victim who are becoming less sensitive to violence. In most cases, the friends and classmates of the bully and the victim accept the violence as normal.

In a landmark study, 432 gifted students in 11 states of USA were studied for bullying. More than two-thirds of academically talented eighth-graders say they have been bullied at school and nearly one-third harboured violent thoughts as a result.

Mona O’Moore of the Anti-Bullying Centre at Trinity College in Dublin, has written, "There is a growing body of research which indicates that individuals, whether child or adult, who are persistently subjected to abusive behavior are at risk of stress related illness which can sometimes lead to suicide." Those who have been the targets of bullying can suffer from long term emotional and behavioral problems. Bullying can cause loneliness, depression, anxiety, lead to low self-esteem and increased susceptibility to illness. In the long term it can lead to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and an inability to form relationships - even leading to celibacy.

The National Conference of State Legislatures said:

"In 2002, a report released by the U.S. Secret Service concluded that bullying played a significant role in many school shootings and that efforts should be made to eliminate bullying behavior."

Suicide

 Bullycide

There is a strong correlation between bullying and suicide. Bullying leads to several suicides every year. It is estimated that between 15 and 25 children commit suicide every year in the UK alone, because they are being bullied.

Types of bullying

School bullying
In schools, bullying occurs in all areas. It can occur in nearly any part in or around the school building, though it more often occurs in PE, recess, hallways, bathrooms, on school buses and waiting for buses, classes that require group work and/or after school activities. Bullying in school sometimes consists of a group of students taking advantage of or isolating one student in particular and gaining the loyalty of bystanders who want to avoid becoming the next victim. These bullies taunt and tease their target before physically bullying the target. Bystanders may participate or watch, sometimes out of fear of becoming the next victim.

Some states in the United States have implemented laws to address school bullying.

  Law prohibits bullying of students based on sexual orientation and gender identity

  Law prohibits bullying of students based on sexual orientation only

  School regulation or ethical code for teachers that address bullying of students based on sexual orientation

Bullying can also be perpetrated by teachers and the school system itself: There is an inherent power differential in the system that can easily predispose to subtle or covert abuse (relational aggression or passive aggression), humiliation, or exclusion — even while maintaining overt commitments to anti-bullying policies.

  Law prohibits bullying in school but lists no specific categories of protection

  No statewide law that specifically prohibits bullying in schools

Workplace bullying

According to the Workplace Bullying and Trauma Institute workplace bullying is "repeated, health-harming mistreatment, verbal abuse, or conduct which is threatening, humiliating, intimidating, or sabotage that interferes with work, or some combination of the three."^[65] Statistics show that bullying is 3 times as prevalent as illegal discrimination and at least 1,600 times as prevalent as workplace violence. Statistics also show that while only one employee in every 10,000 becomes a victim of workplace violence, one in six experiences bullying at work. Bullying is a little more common than sexual harassment but not verbal abuse which occurs more than bullying.

Unlike the more physical form of school bullying, workplace bullying often takes place within the established rules and policies of the organization and society. Such actions are not necessarily illegal and may not even be against the firm's regulations; however, the damage to the targeted employee and toworkplace morale is obvious.

Bullying in teaching

School teachers are commonly the subject of bullying but they are also sometimes the originators of bullying within a school environment.

Cyber-bullying

Cyber-bullying is any bullying done through the use of technology. This form of bullying can easily go undetected because of lack of parental/authoritative supervision. Because bullies can pose as someone else, it is the most anonymous form of bullying. Cyber bullying includes, but is not limited to, abuse using email, instant messaging, text messaging, websites, social networking sites, etc.

Gay bullying

Gay bullying and gay bashing are expressions used to designate verbal or physical actions that are direct or indirect in nature by a person or group against a person who is gay, lesbian, bisexual,transgendered, or of questionable sexual orientation, or one who is perceived to be so, because of rumors or fitting gay stereotypes.

Bullying of the disabled

There is an additional problem that those with learning disabilities are often not as able to explain things to other people so are more likely to be disbelieved or ignored if they do complain.

It has been noted that disabled people are disproportionately affected by bullying and that this can be seen as a hate crime issue. The bullying is not limited to those who are visibly disabled such as wheelchair-users or physically deformed.

Bullying in prisons

Another environment known for bullying is a country's prison service. This is almost inevitable when many of the people incarcerated are there for aggressive crimes and many were bullies at school. An additional complication is the staff and their relationships with the inmates. Thus the following possible bullying scenarios are possible:

• Inmate bullies inmate (echoing school bullying);
• Staff bullies inmate;
• Staff bullies staff (a manifestation of workplace bullying);
• Inmate bullies staff.
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Bullying in other areas

As the verb to bully is defined as simply "forcing one's way aggressively or by intimidation," the term may generally apply to any life experience where one is motivated primarily by intimidation instead of by more positive goals such as mutually shared interests and benefits. As such, any figure of authority or power which may use intimidation as a primary means of motivating others, such as a neighborhood "protection racket don", a national dictator, a childhood ring-leader, a terrorist, a terrorist organization, or even a ruthless business CEO, could rightfully be referred to as a bully. According to psychologist Pauline Rennie-Peyton, we each face the possibility of being bullied in any phase of our lives.

BULLYING

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Bullying is a form of aggressive behavior, which may manifest as abusive treatment, the use of force or coercion to affect others, It may involve verbal harassment,physical assault or coercion and may be directed persistently towards particular victims, perhaps on grounds of race, religion, gender, sexuality, or ability. The "imbalance of power" may be social power and/or physical power. The victim of bullying is sometimes referred to as a "target." Bullying consists of three basic types of abuse – emotional, verbal, and physical. It typically involves subtle methods of coercion such as intimidation.